Embrace Solitude


We are living in a busy and noisy world. Our demanding jobs, family and social activities can easily filled up our days. On top of that, we are surrounded by radios, televisions, computers, phones and tablets which are constantly feeding us with massive amount of information, from the latest trends to the worldwide news, from advertisements to experts’ opinions and critics etc. All these activities and information can easily drain our bodies and minds. In fact, the information that we are exposing ourselves to everyday is influencing how we think, how we behave, and eventually how we live our lives. If we do not have a clear purpose of life and strong core values to hold on to, we will end up listening to the noises and following the crowd. We will let our busy life take over our minds and bodies that we forget who we are and what makes us truly happy and fulfilled.

How is your everyday life looks like right now? Do you feel energized when you wake up each day or do you feel tired and struggle to get up? Are you excited to go to work each day or you can’t wait for the weekend to come? Do you feel in control of your time each day or do you feel too busy rushing around, too stressful or out of control? If the later parts of these questions describe you, you are probably not yet living in alignment with your passion, your values and your purpose. May be its time for you to pause, reflect and adjust. The good news is, we all have the power to change for the better, and I find that very often we don’t need to make drastic changes to make things better. All we need to do is to make small daily improvements each day, and over time, it will lead to significant improvement.

I used to live a hectic life too. Starting from a young age, I liked to be productive and achieve things. I would describe myself as optimistic, hard working, discipline and ambitious. I like setting goals, working hard, achieving my goals, then setting new goals to achieve and repeating the process again. I accomplished quite well both academically and professionally but somehow I felt something was missing inside me. I was achieving but not feeling truly happy and fulfilled. One day I picked up a self-development book to read. In this book the idea of “Embracing Solitude” was introduced to me. It explained show a simple act of being quiet by ourselves on a daily basis can help us towards living a happier and more fulfilling life. The book made so much sense to me and I started to catch a glimpse of the possibility of living an extraordinary life filled with joy and peace. It was exactly what I needed to hear at the time and I felt that God was speaking to me. I was compelled to give it a try. I began to give myself 30 to 60 minutes quiet time every morning prior to my work.

During this quiet time, I express my gratitude, I meditate, I read good books, I reflect, and I visualize how I like my day to be. At the end of my quiet time, I would feel inspired, motivated and ready to live my day the best I can. On weekends, I love to spend my quiet time in nature such as trail hiking, walking at the park, sitting by the beach listening to the waves or simply sitting at my balcony at home watching the gorgeous sunrise and sunset while listening to my favorite classical music. I discover that it is in our moments of solitude that we truly discover myself and know “who we are”. The clearer we know about ourselves such as our strength, our talents, our passion, our values and our purpose, the more effortless it would be for us to live our everyday life.

Ever since I developed this daily ritual of solitude and to have positive expectancy of each day, positive things started to happen in my life. The right persons and the right solutions show up naturally, favors come into my way and blessings flow through me. My stress disappeared. I became happier, healthier and more peaceful. The personal clarity that I gained through my solitude also allows me to say “no” to many things that are not aligned with my purpose and values, so that I can focus my energy on the few things that I do well and matter to me. I am also less concern about how other people think of me as I allow my inner compass from within as my guide. The daily ritual of solitude has served me amazingly well and it has transformed my life.

Friends, I sincerely hope that you will find your clarity, strength, joy and peace while you embrace solitude each day. I’d like to leave you a beautiful quote from Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart. He said, “The music is not in the notes, but in the silence in between.”

May you live a happy, healthy and fulfilling life!



Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s